Happy Pride Month!! It is the best month of the year, isn’t it? As much as we love our cute rainbow products, we decided to do something a bit different this year. Considering everything that is going on in the world right now, we decided to summarize some LGBTQIA+ issues to better understand what we can do to ensure everyone is being respected. To kick off this beautiful month, we’re starting with Gender Neutrality.
What is Gender Neutrality?
Gender Neutrality is the idea that society should avoid distinguishing roles because of people’s gender. This is to avoid any sort of discrimination that happens because society historically has the impression that one gender is more suited than another for any given activity. For the purposes of clarification, it is not because you abide by the idea of gender neutrality that you are non-binary. It just means that you understand that one does not have to be labelled something just because of the way they look.
What exactly does it mean to be non-binary?
This is the hardest to explain. It just means that someone does not identify with a specific binary gender (male or female). It sounds simple, but it’s much more complex than it sounds. The way someone identifies themselves is not just a matter of using the correct pronoun or how they want to live their lives. It’s how they feel about themselves. As much as anyone can feel uncomfortable with any sort of label in life, people can also feel uncomfortable being labelled male or female. Surely if someone calls you ugly, you will not like it right? Same concept. If someone labels you something you are not and you do not accept or want to be labelled that, someone that does not identify as a binary gender would also not like, nor accept, to be labelled as such.
Some languages do use a gender-neutral pronoun which makes things easier. Most of the time in English when someone identifies as non-binary, we tend to use they/them/their as pronouns. However, the more things develop, the more we see how limited that is. It’s easier and more straight forward nowadays to just ask what pronouns someone uses. There are many options that people have been attempting to create. This is a summary of the ones we found:
New ones are being created every day. You don’t have to feel embarrassed or ashamed to ask someone what pronouns they go by. It’s normal and the more you ask, the more normalized it gets. It’s safe and it doesn’t hurt anyone.
What is Pitod doing?
As you might know, we are a gender-neutral brand. This is part of our DNA. Our core concept is that we do not use a gender-based concept. Our concept is you! We want you to be comfortable in your own skin as much as you would be in our garments. We work hard to be as inclusive as we can in every way. Not just through our communications but also through our donations and partnerships that we value so much. We nurture a world where no one needs to fit in a box or a label. That’s what we’re here for and fighting for.
How Can I Help?
The main thing is to make sure everyone knows your pronouns and you know everyone’s. We are not going to pretend this is easy, considering this is not how most of us have been brought up, however, asking always makes it easier. If you use the wrong pronoun, there is also not a problem if you apologize afterwards. There is nothing wrong in making mistakes but make sure you don’t ignore it. People that do not go by he/she would feel disrespected, invalidated, dismissed, alienated or dysphoric (or all of it) if you do not make sure you are at least trying. Saying ‘Sorry, I meant (insert correct pronoun)’ goes a very long way for someone who has just been misgendered.